It’s been a while since my last newsletter, huh? At Quietly Romantic headquarters, there’s a tradition where if I go too long without writing anything new then I get to share an embarrassing story.
This one tops anything I’ve shared before.
Several years ago, I had a friend named Nicole that I always used to hang out with. We’d known each other for a couple of years and we’d always do things together such as…
- Invite each other out to movies late at night
- Cook dinner for each other at our apartments
- Go out to restaurants at midnight to order dessert
…but we never went past just being friends.
Mostly because I’m a dense person.
One day, she invited me to her apartment and made dinner for me. She asked me if I wanted to stay late and play board games with her. We ended up playing Scrabble and, several turns into the game, she plays the word “W-A-N-T”.
On her next turn—I kid you not—she plays the word “S-E-X” right next to the word “W-A-N-T”. My reaction at the time?
“Okay, that’s +19 points for Nicole.”
And that’s why I stayed single that night.
Back then, I had no idea how to tell if someone was flirting with me or what the word “flirting” even meant. Sometimes my friends would even come out and tell me “Dude, why didn’t you talk to her? She was totally hitting on you” and I’d just stand there confused.
Was she really trying to flirt with me? Or just being overly friendly?
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