The rules of dating are different now than they were before. When everything was “normal”, maybe you’d run into a woman you liked while you were out with some friends and then you’d get her phone number.

Maybe your first date was a double-date with friends, or dinner at a nice place, or even a fun activity such as mini-golf (one of my favorites!) Maybe your second date included going to the park where you’d “accidentally” brush up against her and somehow ended up holding hands. And, if you still liked her at this point, maybe your third date would involve drinks and a movie with some cuddling.

It’s different now. The old rules of dating no longer apply.

Just because we’re under lockdown, though, doesn’t mean that our dating lives have to come to a halt!

Today, more and more people are turning to the world of online dating to continue their dating lives. They have virtual dates over Skype/FaceTime/Zoom rather than in-person dates. And, hey, just because it’s a virtual date doesn’t mean it’s any less real!

To make it as easy as possible for you, I’ve put together a Q&A of some questions that I’ve received from my readers:

Continue reading Is online dating hard? Here’s my secret, go-to message! →

Imagine that you’re on a Zoom call with a woman that you’ve started to connect with…

Initially, you met her on an online dating website. You check out her profile and, turns out, you both have many of the same hobbies! She seems like a cool person, so you decide to send her a message.

A few anxious moments pass. Did she even read your message? Your computer beeps, causing your heart to skip a beat.

It’s her! She responds to your message, and you have a little back-and-forth conversation before you have to log off. You tell her that you had a great time talking to her and you’d like to get to know her better. She agrees, and gives you her contact info.

That was several days ago.

Tonight, you’ve got your first date planned with her. Of course, you can’t meet up physically during social distancing, so you both decide to have your first date over Zoom instead. You plan to begin the night by having dinner together—that is, you’ve cooked some dinner for yourself, she’s cooked some food for herself, and you both plan to eat together virtually.

After dinner is drinks and a movie. She’s poured herself a glass of wine, you’ve poured yourself a glass as well, and you both turn the lights down as you both fire up Netflix simultaneously and watch a cheesy romantic comedy together.

Hey, it’s a virtual date, but it’s no less real than any other date!

I’ve decided that our dating lives don’t have to come to a halt just because of a global pandemic. In the immortal words of Patrick Star…

Continue reading How to continue dating during the COVID-19 pandemic →

So…COVID-19 sucks, amirite? I mean, that’s pretty much the understatement of the year at this point.

When this first started back in December 2019, I think everyone just believed that it was all just going to blow over really quickly—just like the Bird Flu or Swine Flu panics that were supposed to be a big deal but just fizzled out.

I’ll admit, I didn’t really mind being stuck inside at first. I’m an introvert at heart, so being inside and spending my free time doing this was right up my alley…

…but after a while, it sucks not having the option to go out anymore. It sucks not being able to go to new places, or try new things, or even meet new people. There are several areas of our lives that are currently being put on hold because of the pandemic.

Dating doesn’t have to be one of them.

More and more people are finding love via online dating these days. I’d like to help you do the same. Over the next couple days, I’m going to cover the essential ingredients for a great online profile including:

• The secret ingredient for a great online profile – get this wrong and you may get zero responses
• The EXACT word-for-word message I use to close the conversation and get her number
• How to date even during a global pandemic

Stay tuned. This is going to be fun!

A good coach changes the world. That’s what I learned from Rich Litvin and Steve Chandler’s book The Prosperous Coach.

Jacob was a longtime subscriber of mine. He reached out to me because he had never had a girlfriend before, and he wanted help finding a good woman who loved him and understood him. The two of us scheduled a free coaching session together. Even though we originally only planned to spend 1.5 hours together, our session ended up being two hours long. I didn’t mind going slightly over time. One of my principles is to always go the extra distance for a client—even the ones I work with for free.

During our coaching session, I helped him learn three keys to finding the woman of his dreams.

Continue reading The best places to meet women and the exact words to talk to her →

Where do we go to meet women, especially after we’ve graduated college? To bars and clubs? Between the huge crowds, loud music, and obligatory drinking, they’re just not my style. And people are actually expected to find romantic connections in such an environment? Count me out! As introverts, we’d really rather just go home and read a book, do some exercise, or just watch TV instead of going out and socializing.

Unlike extroverts, we’re less likely to just “fall” into a relationship. We’re not shy people, but we can only be social for so long before we need to relax on our own again. Where do we go to find someone to date, then?

Continue reading How to meet women WITHOUT going to bars or clubs →

So, how many of us enjoy going to bars and clubs? Between the huge crowds, loud music, and obligatory drinking, they’re just not my style. By the end of the night, my ears are ringing, my voice is raspy from trying to talk over the noise, and alcohol just isn’t my cup of tea. And people are actually expected to find romantic connections in such an environment? Count me out!

Heck, my idea of an awesome Friday night looks like this:

We’re not shy people. However, we use up our energy when we have to interact with other people and we can only use so much energy before we need to be alone and recharge. Personally, I tend to feel like taking a nap after I’ve been socializing with other people for a while.

Unlike extroverts, we become tired very easily after being surrounded by other people. Since we can only be social for so long before we need to go home and relax on our own, we need to be choosy about where we go to meet women.

Here are five of my favorite places to meet women as an introvert. Continue reading Five Awesome Places to Meet Women as an Introvert →

I used to have a hard time meeting women after I graduated college. As an introvert I didn’t know how to go meet women since I was more comfortable going home and reading a book, working out, or just playing video games.

You know, just doing this all night or even all weekend…

Every day after work, I cherished my time with myself since it allowed me to recharge. However, as that summer went on I became uncomfortably aware that more and time had gone by since I had a girlfriend or even went on a date.

Where was I supposed to go to meet someone?

Continue reading How to start meeting more women immediately →