I’m here thanks to “Highly Sensitive Refuge” (which I found thanks to “Introvert, Dear) — specifically their article “Flirty Styles for Highly Sensitive People”.
I too am INFJ and kind of a nerd. The way I think of myself is that my social skills suck. So let’s see how this goes. XD Thank you for this resource!
I ended up downloading your guide twice because I thought the Quality Women Locator (this name makes me chuckle to be honest) was a separate download.
I’m so glad I found you! I’m a professional counseling astrologer, and men come to me about love, or the lack of it, in their lives. Men who are wonderful catches (just today, a man who has a great job, cooks, likes to keep his place clean, owns a home, and loves dogs) but who are very introverted. So I went looking for a male love coach for introverted men, and here you are. I sent him your website. Thank you for your work!
I found this source with the anti-Red Pill blog post you made “selfishly”… because I feel so much (also selfish) pity for a guy who is socially awkward, and who my guy-friend warned me thinks in misogynistic terms. I tried to help the guy, exposing him to feminism and other facts that contradict his “racism isn’t that bad anymore, women aren’t oppressed, white males are the most oppressed” highly-conservative evangelical mindset, but I stood firm on refusing to date him after he dated me *without even telling his parents* while I gave so much to the relationship and he gave less than nothing when he repeatedly ghosted (i.e. didn’t communicate with) me. I know he wants to feel loved, understood, and useful – It’s the simplest thing in the world for me to just observe him say it in dozens of ways, through his actions and words. That’s probably because I’m highly sensitive that I can read him so easily. I know he feels really bad about messing up our friendship, too. I know that if I swoop in to save his day I won’t be helping him because what he needs is self reflection, but I feel like he won’t self-reflect on his own. So it’s selfish of me, but I found this source by daydreaming that he’ll be a better man someday (who grows beyond his shame and self-sabotage, and I wished to him that he would) EVEN THOUGH I swore to him that even if he was the best guy in the world, I’d still never date him again. At this point my selfishness extends to wishing I could somehow nudge him in the right direction because I don’t want him to become an embittered man who influences others to think in his same self-destructive manner.
On another note, I was surprised to hear other people came here from highly sensitive advice. That makes sense.
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I’m here thanks to “Highly Sensitive Refuge” (which I found thanks to “Introvert, Dear) — specifically their article “Flirty Styles for Highly Sensitive People”.
I too am INFJ and kind of a nerd. The way I think of myself is that my social skills suck. So let’s see how this goes. XD Thank you for this resource!
I ended up downloading your guide twice because I thought the Quality Women Locator (this name makes me chuckle to be honest) was a separate download.
It makes my day to hear you liked what I wrote on “Highly Sensitive Refuge”. Thanks Samuel!
Hi Steven,
I’m so glad I found you! I’m a professional counseling astrologer, and men come to me about love, or the lack of it, in their lives. Men who are wonderful catches (just today, a man who has a great job, cooks, likes to keep his place clean, owns a home, and loves dogs) but who are very introverted. So I went looking for a male love coach for introverted men, and here you are. I sent him your website. Thank you for your work!
Hi Karen, really appreciate the comment. I’m glad you liked it!
I found this source with the anti-Red Pill blog post you made “selfishly”… because I feel so much (also selfish) pity for a guy who is socially awkward, and who my guy-friend warned me thinks in misogynistic terms. I tried to help the guy, exposing him to feminism and other facts that contradict his “racism isn’t that bad anymore, women aren’t oppressed, white males are the most oppressed” highly-conservative evangelical mindset, but I stood firm on refusing to date him after he dated me *without even telling his parents* while I gave so much to the relationship and he gave less than nothing when he repeatedly ghosted (i.e. didn’t communicate with) me. I know he wants to feel loved, understood, and useful – It’s the simplest thing in the world for me to just observe him say it in dozens of ways, through his actions and words. That’s probably because I’m highly sensitive that I can read him so easily. I know he feels really bad about messing up our friendship, too. I know that if I swoop in to save his day I won’t be helping him because what he needs is self reflection, but I feel like he won’t self-reflect on his own. So it’s selfish of me, but I found this source by daydreaming that he’ll be a better man someday (who grows beyond his shame and self-sabotage, and I wished to him that he would) EVEN THOUGH I swore to him that even if he was the best guy in the world, I’d still never date him again. At this point my selfishness extends to wishing I could somehow nudge him in the right direction because I don’t want him to become an embittered man who influences others to think in his same self-destructive manner.
On another note, I was surprised to hear other people came here from highly sensitive advice. That makes sense.